Recently I had a friend introduce me to some new people at a party and she said “This is Meredith, she’s a farmer’s wife.” If I was a cartoon, my head would have spun around exorcist style and fire would have shot out of my eyeballs. I know that several of my contemporaries experience similar treatment. We know the things that we do to raise our families, our animals, and our crops. But to the rest of the world, we are invisible. An accessory to the Farmer; the “real” worker. I know people imagine they get up before the sun, feed the animals, do chores, hop on the tractor and do field work all day, and come in well after supper time. And while that may be true for some, there are many more women out there that not only support their husband’s work, but also do a fair bit of farm work themselves.
I’m here to tell you that I am a Farmer too, I’m a FarmHer! I wake up early (most days before Hubster) get breakfast for my boys and us, then he and I do the morning chores TOGETHER. He goes out and does field work on the tractor while I go take care of our children. We work on large and small projects around the house or barn (And I usually have a baby on my back). We put in the endless feet of fence TOGETHER. For more on the fence, check out my other two fence posts. We suffer the same disappointments and celebrate the same joys that accompany farming TOGETHER.
The US Census Bureau collects a lot of Agricultural statistics that are available here. One of the most important statistics they collect (in my opinion) is the number of farmers that are women. However, the way they count women farmers may need some updating. They count women farmers as any woman that is listed as the sole or majority operator of a farm. These women are significantly in minority accounting for less than 10% of all farmers in this country. But, I reject the idea that because I am in a partnership with a man, that he is the farmer and I am the accessory.
Hubster and I are true partners, in everything (farm work, housework, parenting, bringing home bacon, all of it). It’s truly wonderful and I am so so grateful. And if you tally up “years of experience in farming” Hubster has a few more than I do (but only a few). But especially because, without me, this farm would never have existed. My hard work, long days, blood sweat and tears, and my vision are the foundation of this farm just as much if not more than Hubster.
So I beg your pardon friend who needs some educating, while it’s true I am technically a farmer’s wife, I am also a FarmHER!!!
Are you the primary farmer in your family? Even if you contribute support, be proud! Comment below!
In 2011, my mom Connie, my husband Dan, and I were struck with a lightning bolt of luck when we found the property that is now our home. It took us almost 2 years of driving all over central Maryland and looking at run down property after run down property, but when we saw what is now BlueLand Farm, we all knew it was perfect.
Ever wondered what it might be like to build a whole farm up from nothing? Yea, I hadn’t really either, and so when I set out on this adventure I had very little to go on except that it would be a lot of work, and a pretty big chunk of our savings. My only experience with building something like this from scratch is when I watched my parents build their own home when I was 12. Not exactly a lot to go on. And this “farm” was just a field that had had corn and soybeans growing, no buildings, no house, no fences, not even a driveway.
Closing on the property was an adventure in and of itself. The family joke is that it took Dan and I less time to make a baby, than it did to close on this property. There were issues with deed overlap, and issues with extremely old deeds (the last time they had been updated was 1940), and the title company was dragging their feet.
Closing got so involved and Dan spent many nights hunched over PDF copies of Microfiche deeds from the 1920s reading about meets and bounds. Our real estate agent asked him if he was a property attorney…nope, just a farmer with a lot of motivation to get this done right!!! Buying a new property or house is always stressful, and so I wasn’t surprised or concerned. We persevered and now I can say; all’s well that ends well!
We got a lot of support and advice from local farmers, soil conservation, and anyone else we could think of to ask. So if you are out there in internet-land reading this, THANKS!!!!
When faced with many tasks, I find it best to make a list, just randomly point to something on the list, and start with that. But this time, we decided to be a little more organized. We needed a reliable way to access the property, so we started with a driveway. Our driveway was going to be ⅓ mile long and gravel. We did some adulting and, we got some quotes and settled on a “guy”, henceforth know as Driveway Rick, who ended up doing a great job, we were super happy.
At the same time, we started work on the never-ending project that haunts my dreams now. I call it simply “the fence”. The first phase of “the fence” was relatively painless and did not provide any foreshadowing of the pain that would come later. It did not require a lot of man hours on our part, but we paid the price….literally. It was really ‘spensive ya’ll. It was beautiful, convenient, and FAST. But the downside of it being twice the price of a DIY fence, we could NOT afford to keep THAT up without drying up our money pot too fast.
Plan B, buy the materials and install the fence ourselves. We are not shy and delicate flowers; we are sturdy, rustic, do-it-yourselfers! So we thought, we got this. But almost a year later, it just keeps dragging on and on and it’s one of the hardest things I have ever done (I planned, and executed a 100% DIY wedding for Hubster and I back in *mumble mumble mumble*, ahem, several years ago – this fence was worse then that – maybe because it isn’t quite as fun). We’ve done about 2,000 feet ourselves already, and Hun, it STILL ain’t finished. I can’t, I just can’t talk about the fence any more today. I’ll save that for another day I promise.
But that’s the beginning of our little farm’s story. And the idea is that this blog will take you on a journey through that story, with some sidebars about cooking, sewing, maybe some homeschooling…..who knows where my brain will take us. But hang with me and I promise it won’t be boring!!!
Help! I need somebody. Help! Not just anybody. Heee-eee-eee-eeelp! Farming is so hard ya’ll. Ive said it before and I’ll say it again! We live this life because we love it. But sometimes, you just need some help! But the good kind, the kind that just knows what they are doing already and you don’t have to explain a million things to. Ladies and gentlemen, we are not those kinds of helpers.
Our lovely friends over at Little Leaf Springs Farm were in the middle of their garlic harvest several weeks ago, and we were so excited to help them out!! Alicia was at the farm digging up garlic by hand all day, while we were on babysitting duty. Then in the afternoon, she would bring all the garlic over to our house and we would clean and scrub and scrub and clean and sort and grade by size.
By the end of the week, we were all so exhausted, but we had fun!! And we had huge boxes of beautiful garlic ready for drying and selling at farmer’s markets this summer!! What a blessing!
Maybe this is a good time to talk about how farming is truly a community activity and no one farmer is an island. What would you do if you neighbor’s cows get loose in your hay field? #askingforafriend #jk # thisactuallyhappenedlastyear. You don’t just call him and say “Hey dude, your cows are in our hay field”. I mean, you do call him, but then after that, you put on your muck boots and you help him round up those cows!!! And even if they end up smashing up your hay feeder in the process, it’s ok! Because that is what you do for each other!
Because sooner or later your Guinea Fowl will get too adventurous and end up way up their driveway and they will round them up and bring them back for you. You are there for them when it’s all hands on deck, and they will do the same for you. Because there are some jobs on the farm that you need lots of people for. Ask my husband about his childhood growing up on a dairy farm and he will surely tell you about all the summers that he and his brother were “loaned” out to the neighbors to help them stack hay in their barn. I can hear him complaining now “We had to ride our bikes 3 miles to their house, work like dogs all day, and then ride our bikes back home to do evening chores at home. And we never got paid!”. Don’t be too sad for them though, their parents did an excellent job making sure their kids had lives off the farm and relaxation and play time.
That is just one of the things that I really love about farming. You BELONG to the community. It’s such a wonderful gift to belong like that anywhere. And these people are unlike anyone else on the planet. They are kind, optimistic, hardworking, dark humored, never give up and never surrender people. I feel like I could break in to song about it “that will give you their shirt and the back to go with it…if you crop should happen to die!!” Ok no seriously. I am lucky to call them my friends. Which is why were happy to raise our hands and jump in to learn how to clean garlic in the small hours of the morning.
Got any community coming together stories? Share them in the comments!!! I love to hear them!
**Disclosure -Bee puns are numerous and I’m not ashamed** There is a new buzz at the farm recently! Honey bee hives!!! Honey bees are something I have been wanting to add to the farm for many years but we just haven’t made the plunge. Mostly because of how costly it is to get setup to keep bees. I have been reading and learning as much as I can about bees, without actually having them for the last 3 years. I priced out hives a dozen times. No matter what I did, I could not get the start up costs down below $450. And that is going super cheap and leaving out a lot of what people would normally buy. The most expensive part of all this were the actual bees themselves. in our area, you can pay between $120-$150 for a package of bees and even more for a nucleus colony. So what’s a girl yearning for some pollination to do? She just waited. Wait, what? you ask. It’s very unusual of me to be patient, I know. But we had so much else going on with the farm, that I allowed it to slip to the back of my priorities. Until the day that my husband called me from his parents’ house to tell me that there was a swarm of bees in his mom’s peach tree!!!
Oh my goodness, knock me over with a bee brush. I was so excited….play it cool, bee chill. Even if you make it up there before they fly off, what are you going to put them in? My brain is going 17,500 miles per hour as I brainstorm what to do. My very good friend and fellow farm mom, Alicia, popped into my brain *pop*. She kept bees, she had a bee suit, she had equipment. In my head it felt like a big ask to have her drop everything and meet me at my in-laws with all her bee equipment. Maybe she would want to catch them for herself after all, she was the one with all the investment. But when I called her….she was totally game for my adventure and willing to help me get started. (This is when I started to realize that bee people are actually the best)
Dan and his Dad got things ready for us to catch the swarm while we were both still on our way to their house.
Here’s Alicia, catching the swarm. This is her first time catching a swarm by the way, doesn’t she look like she knows what she is doing? I think so. She did an amazing job of catching all those bees…And she even brought me a small hive to put them in!!!
When we got home with our bees it was pretty late and we were starting to loose our light, so I don’t have a ton of pictures. Alicia loaned me her husbands very large bee suit, so I look a little silly in this next one, but more important I want to show you what the hive started out with, it wasn’t the huge set up that I was told I needed to start keeping bees. I had a bottom board ($20), a medium hive body with 10 frames and foundation ($40-$50), and a feeder. Now there are a couple ways to go for a feeder. You can spend less ($5-$10) on an entrance feeder and risk some robbing of your hive, or you can spend a little more ($20) on a top feeder. Alicia brought us all of those items so I didn’t need to immediately go out and buy any of them, but even if I had, I would have spent less than $100.
Notice there is no notched inner cover, no fancy telescoping metal topped outer cover. This is a genuine redneck hive ya’ll, with no $ $$ for frills like fancy lids. Now Alicia eventually wanted her stuff back, who wouldn’t, that stuff is expensive! So the next week I went to town and bought new items to replace her borrowed ones, and I sprung for a migratory lid ($14)
Suits are usually quite expensive and can start around $70 ranging all the way up into the $160 range. I found this suit on eBay for $30. Shop around, you do NOT have to pay full price for stuff ya’ll. I didn’t buy gloves because, well that was more money, and they honestly make it harder to work in the hive. I was worried about stinging until I realized that the bees have better things to do than sting me, and as long as they don’t sting me in the face or body, I can handle a few stings to the hands. I picked up a few bee tools at a yard sale a few years ago, so I already had a smoker, hive tool, and frame grabber. Then I got down to the business of tending my new bees!!
After two weeks of feeding them, and watching them carefully, I determined that they had no queen 😦 whether she died during hive installation, or she was never in the swarm, who knows, but they were hopelessly queenless at this point. (For those of you that haven’t spent years learning about these fascinating insects, that means they have no queen, and no way to make a queen, ie. eggs laid by a previous queen with which they could feed what would have been a worker bee royal jelly and make that bee become a queen)
I reached out to our local beekeeping club to see if anyone was selling queens, and some one WAS!!!! So I bought a local queen for $20 and saved the hive from certain disaster and decline. HORAAY! Look at her, she’s so BEEautiful (just FYI, the bees all around her are called her retinue, maybe they find her BEEguiling)
So let’s review what THE MAN tells you what you need v.s. what you ACTUALLY need:
TOTAL – at least $450 (probably more)
TOTAL – $150 (still a lot, but tons better than THE MAN above)
Hey all you wonderful people! I’m back to talk homeschool curriculum! I have had many chats with other homeschoolers in our area, visited a homeschool curriculum fair, and done TONS and TONS of research online. And here are my choices. Because I am new to this, and not super confident as a teacher yet, I opted for a few things that are open and go (AAR & RSM)* and a few more open ended things. Also, because its only Kindergarten, I’m not going as crazy as I would have liked to. There was some SERIOUS self censure happening. After visiting the curriculum fair, I wanted to buy ALL the curriculum!!
Keep in mind that each state has different requirements for homeschooling and there are multiple websites to help you determine which rules you must follow. I’ll try to find some links and add them, but honestly, there are other blogs that are probably better suited for a “this is how you start homeschooling” person than mine.
Ok, so the two most important subjects for me where Math and Reading, so that’s where I spent most of my budget. I opted for All About Reading (AAR)* for learning to read. Because this is a Orton-Gillingham style program, it is well suited for those with learning differences. It’s not the cheapest show in town, but it’s not the most expensive either. Plus they have thousands of amazing reviews and people that love it. Also, I really liked that from the very first lesson, students are able to read their first story in the supplied readers. Which for my son, was extremely motivating and made him hungry for more immediately! The teacher’s manual is written like a play script with stage directions (build the word “mat” with your tiles) and lines (place your finger under the word and say to your student – What is this word?). I bought this at the homeschool curriculum fair from Rainbow Resource Center for $119. That has everything you need to teach the course except for the letter tiles kit. You buy this once and use it for all levels. It was $20. They also have an iPad app that does the same thing for the same price. You don’t not need the deluxe kit with the bag and the card box. But if that’s what blows your dress up, do it!
Math was a harder decision. There are so many great ones to pick from. We finally decided to go with Right Start Math (RSM)*. They have a unique approach to teaching math that encourages a lot of mental math and picturing numbers in a unique way that is nothing short of spectacular! It’s a bit labor intensive for the teacher, since each lesson is meant to be 1 on 1. The program is also a bit on the pricey side, but definitely not the most costly one out there. It is highly researched by Dr. Joan Cotter who has a Masters in curriculum and instruction and a PhD in mathematics education. Each teacher’s manual/student workbook combo is around $90. The manual is reusable for other kids, you just need a new student workbook. Then there are several options for manipulative kits. You only need to buy this once and then you will have everything you need for every single math level. (Math Curriculums are really intimidating in this way, because you feel like it’s a long term commitment and you’re not sure if you will love it. So make sure you do your research, but also know that everything has pretty good resale value on curriculum swaps or eBay.)
The deluxe “includes everything” manipulative kit is somewhere in the neighborhood of $250. But has a lot of things that most people have laying around the house already (like coins, calculator, popsicle sticks, mirror, and others) so they also offer a “Super saver” for $150 that leaves out all of these items and even includes some “printable” items. Guess which one this chick went for? Yea Super Saver all the way. We bought it at the homeschool curriculum convention and they were offering a Convention Discount. So all told we made it out of there for about $240.
It sounds like a lot I know. I am a big time budget shopper, so this hurt a little. Recently I have been accused of have “bougie” (sp?) taste when it comes to curriculum. But I like to think of it as an investment into my children’s minds. I know, I know, more expensive doesn’t always mean better….but I absolutely love the way Right Start teaches you to “think like a mathematician”. I mean, what is the chief complaint of all people that hate math? “I’m just not a math person” or “It just doesn’t click with me” or even “I just don’t get it”. Not so with this program (supposedly). If you do what they ask of you, and don’t try to bypass bits in the lessons (ask me how I know this – We started with skipping the first 20 lessons since they seemed to only cover teaching numbers 1-10, which my son already knew. But there were a ton of little gems hidden in those lessons about strategies for using the abacus, and using mental math to group numbers. So we had to go back and cover all of those before we moved on).
For Social Studies I fount this cute little “social studies notebook” on Teachers Pay Teachers (which is another really great place to find great and inexpensive curriculum). Each little mini unit came with book recommendations that we would get form the library every week and read, and then do the activity.
“PE” was playing outside – lets not overcomplicate this right?
And for music we sing and I am trying to teach him how to play the ukulele with free YouTube videos!
I also decided to add a handwriting curriculum as well. And after trying a few cheap workbooks, I caved and purchased the Logic of English Rhythm of Handwriting Cursive edition. There is some really great information on their website about why starting with cursive is better and easier. Ill leave that to you to read and research on your own. But it made an impression on me and I have been happy with the results so far.
We are a month into this adventures and we are very excited to continue! I plan to update you maybe every 6 months? Let me know if you have questions or want more updates!
We are entering a new season in our house. The season of schooling. Hard choices abound. For most people there are 3 main options. Send your child to public schools, private schools, and homeschooling. They all have pros and cons. We can’t afford private school, even if I work more than I do now, and I have some serious issues with our current public school system. (PAUSE to say that I have ZERO issues with all the fabulous, sacrificing teachers in our public school system…..you all are amazing…..seriously, I don’t know how you put up with all the C*@P that you do – my issue is with the box that you are stuffed into) And so for us, in this season, homeschooling makes the most sense. I am home most days anyway with our younger two, and additionally, we are fairly sure that our first has some learning differences.
I am terrified that he will be labeled the bad kid, or the loud kid. He gravitates towards those kids with the worst behavior and copies them. Is that just my kid? Does your kid do that? He is also incredibly bright, and I’m worried that his learning differences will be ignored because he’s able to compensate well and he won’t fall behind.
I was told by teachers that “it’s no problem if they aren’t falling behind, we don’t worry until they are falling behind the class!”. As if this would make me feel better about that. Except that I don’t feel better, in fact, I have a huge problem with that. How many kids are not reaching their full potential in life because they just “aren’t falling behind”? What if his potential is to be a grade ahead, two grades ahead? Even if his potential is to be a grade behind, his individual learning needs will still be placed to the side for the benefit of the group as a whole. I reject this. I know we are capable of much more as a society, and until there is a better solution in our public schools, I will take control of our children’s education.
So….stay tuned for some homeschool adventures!! I have NO IDEA what I am doing…so let’s learn together!! Got any burning homeschooling questions? Post them below!!!
After I wrote the post about applesauce, I figured that a post with some home canning safety tips would be in order. I have found that the website www.healthycanning.com as well as the NCHFP and the CDC are great resources for home canning guidelines.
Internet-land can be a great deep pool of knowledge, but sometimes the problem when cruising around in all that knowledge is that you are really just getting a lot of people’s opinions, like MINE! 🙂
Just because someone’s grandmother canned using (insert unsafe canning method here) and everyone was fine…..does not mean that it IS a safe method. I equate it to driving without a seat belt. A majority of the time, you will get to your destination and everything will have been fine, but that ONE time you get into an accident, you’ll be sorry you weren’t wearing it! In most situations it doesn’t take any more time or effort to do it the right way, just like buckling up! Just do it!
When we are talking about the safety of the food that MY family is going to eat, I want to know that everyone is going to be safe. Food tainted with botulism or other food born illnesses do not always look and smell rancid!!! HealthyCanning.com has straightforward, easily understood articles about canning safety and I encourage you to head over there for some reading before venturing out into the internet to learn different recipes and techniques. And always after every article they provide resources for you to read more about the topic. Evidence-Based practice? What? Instead of antidotal accounts? YEA!!! That’s what my little nurse heart loves!! Never trust the first thing you read. Go out and search for the thing that proves it right!!
And just in case you are wondering, here are MY home canning rules:
That’s it! Follow the recipe, use proper equipment, and store them safely! Not so complicated right? GO forth, you can CAN!!!!